Reviving a stale relationship requires effort from both partners. Most couples fall into a comfort zone once the newness wears off and the relationship and commitment is established. This usually results in one or both people making very little effort, when it comes to keeping passion, excitement and arousal alive. On average this decline in effort occurs after the extended 18 month honeymoon period.
If you’re looking for ways to elevate the passion from zero, there are many easy ways to perk up your relationship:
Kick Up The Adrenaline
Falling in love makes your heart race and your excitement and arousal rocket. Relationships start out with an adrenaline rush that is created by shared activity and the mutual desire to please one another. To stimulate the relationship dynamics take control of the situation and introduce some arousal stimulating activities.
Activities that raise arousal can include watching a scary horror movie, riding a theme park rollercoaster, parachuting out of a plane, dancing energetically, going for a hike in nature or simply exercising. Whatever gets the heart pumping faster will encourage excitement and build passion.
Keep It Fresh
When perking up the passion in your relationship, the key is to introduce an element of newness whenever possible. The novelty and element of mystery and surprise ignites a spark and stimulates the intimate connection between you and your partner. You don’t have to go overboard with creative and elaborate ideas and plans to surprise your partner however. Something as simple as choosing an activity you have never done together before can have a huge positive impact on mutual passion. On date night, why not dine at a new restaurant, or get tickets for a West End show – if you usually opt to eat at your favourite restaurant followed by a trip to the movies.
A psychic or spiritual reading may help you identify other fresh ways in which to connect with your partner on a deeper level.
Touch And Play
Gentle, intimate and seductive touch stimulates the senses and creates arousal, passion and desire that is both physiologically and psychologically beneficial for both partners. Holding hands, hugging or kissing quickly reminds you of the intimate bond that you share with your partner. Public displays of affection (PDA) may not be for everyone, so explore touch whenever you are together in comfortable surroundings.
Play is not something that is reserved just for children. Couples can use playful gestures or ‘games’ to reignite the spark in the relationship. Mess around like big, silly kids to encourage your partner to relax, have fun and laugh together.
Get To Know Each Other (All Over Again)
Make time every day to enjoy the following moments:
- Kiss and hug, often
- Laugh together
- Discover something new about your partner
- Say: “I love you”
- Whenever you are thankful or grateful let your partner know
- Be the first to say sorry, when appropriate
- Share a memory
- Talk and listen
Passion For One
If you’re single it is important to put some passion into your relationship with yourself. Whether or not you are looking for love, or are happy being single, it is essential that you give yourself the personal care and attention that you need and deserve. Treat yourself to something special, and make some time to get to know what your passion truly is. You may find that you surprise yourself!